Armchair BEA: Book Signings And Other Humiliations

None Armchair BEA: Book Signings And Other HumiliationsBook geeks like myself are drawn to the physicality of books. Most of us have huge collections of novels that we have read or that we’re going to read, and both sides of these lists are always growing. However, if book lovers like collecting books (and reading them), then imagine how great their desire is to collect the holy grail of a book lover’s world – the signature of their favorite author, especially a personalized one.

Like every other book geek, the idea of collecting author autographs is appealing to me. Now that most of the book blogging community is down in NYC for Book Expo America (BEA) getting all of their new ARCs signed, it seems like a fitting time to talk about my experience with book signings. It just so happens that up to this precise moment, I only have one signed copy of a book in my possession. So what is my single, signed book and who wrote it? David Sedaris‘ latest book When You Are Engulfed In Flames, and now for the story, because in true form, there definitely is a story here.

Back in the summer of 2008, I glanced in a local paper and noticed that one of my favorite writers would be making his way to my city while on tour for his latest book. No matter what, I knew I had to go to this reading, just so I could sit back and laugh over and over again. Being a DavidSedaris reading and book signing, I wasn’t disappointed at all in the laughter that the reading induced. Those who know me, however, know that I’m pretty shy under normal circumstances, so when meeting someone who I admired as much as him (especially two years ago), it wasn’t pretty. I waited in line for about an hour, and the whole time I was thinking, “What can I say to him?” I wanted to seem smart, funny and entertaining, and it was a lot of pressure…too much really.

(First bit of advice to would-be BEA attendees, don’t try to impress, just be yourself and the great parts about you will come shining through – if only I’d thought of this two years ago!?!)

I’m sure you can imagine that the more I pressured myself to say something witty, the less likely it was going to become a reality. However, I kept trying, thinking, and of course, waiting. Perhaps I should have been reading from my new, soon-to-be signed copy of WhenYouAreEngulfedInFlames because you see, I hadn’t actually read this collection of personal essays yet – only four of his older books. Perhaps that would have sparked some ideas about what I could or should say. Instead, I read from another new book I picked up and decided I wanted while waiting in the line. When it was finally my turn to get my book signed, I still hadn’t thought of anything really great to say, so David took the lead asking me about the other book I had in my hand. My answer was so hesitant (and we were in Montreal afterall), so the FUNNIEST thing happened, David mistook me for a Francophone, which really only matters because I’m so definitively not. This wouldn’t be so bad except for two things:

1. My mother tongue IS English

2. I have an M.A. in English Literature

Didn’t I tell you that it was funny in a David Sedaris type of way? Check out his books, and in the meantime, check out this picture of the inscription or rather drawing that he left in my copy:
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Thanks for checking out my first Armchair BEA post, and remember that there’s more to come as the week progresses. Let me know what you think about this absurd situation – I’m actually dying for someone to laugh at me.  

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Article by Melissa Montovani

Melissa has always been a voracious reader of fiction and has an M.A. in English Literature to prove it. Like many other adults, she got caught up in the young adult crossover fiction phenomenon. Now, one of her great joys comes from sharing her love of YA lit on this popular review site. Come with expectations of intellect, magic, and honest reviews, and you won’t be disappointed. Melissa Montovani tagged this post with: , Read 437 articles by Melissa Montovani
  • http://www.theresabook.com The1stdaughter

    That’s awful! Author signings can be so so stressful! Ugh. I had a similar situation happen when I went to see Stephenie Meyer with my sister, I was a huge huge fan and it was before she was really big with the movies. So I had thought up this big thing to say and when I stepped up, my sister also getting a book signed, Stephenie read her name (my sisters) from the post-it we filled out to have her sign and immediately started talking to her. They spent the whole time I was getting my book signed talking about how much Stephenie like my sister’s name! Blah! Needless to say I was a bit disappointed, but at least I was able to see her again and make up for it.

  • Mary (Bookfan)

    I’m glad you can laugh now because it is a funny story (to one who wasn’t there, at least!). And look at the fantastic signature – it comes with a story :D

  • Jodie

    Aww that’s a really cute story :)

  • http://www.yabookshelf.com Melissa

    Thanks of your comment The1stdaughter! I think that I would be better now. I’ve gotten over some of my shyness, and in fact, I would actually kind of love it if David Sedaris knew the whole thing from my perspective – mainly because I can laugh about it now. :)

    Yeah, I understand how disappointing that would have been for you, especially if she was just talking about how much she loved your sisters name. Your story also makes me realize that I’m not the only one that has had something like this happen to them at a signing. When it first happened I definitely thought otherwise. If I had the chance to see David Sedaris, I definitely would. I do have a couple other unsigned books of his, so if I get the chance they might all have some sort of drawing and signature in them.

  • http://www.yabookshelf.com Melissa

    Thanks for your comment Jodie! I think so too – now anyway. When it first happened all I could think was at least I didn’t say not only is my first language English, but also I have an M.A. in English lit. I was humiliated, but I felt like at least I had that going for me. :)

  • http://janflora.wordpress.com janflora

    Funny! I know what you mean about the pressure to say something, (anything!) worthwhile when meeting these awesome wordsmiths. I am still recovering from making somewhat of a fool of myself in front of Margaret Atwood last month :) Instead of telling her, as I have wanted to for decades-Thank you for writing so honestly and intelligently for us readers, and especially, thank you for CAT’S EYE which affected me so much at age 18, I told her I followed her on TWitter. I even think I giggled (ack!) She did smile though, and we had a mini-tweetup :)
    Sedaris would probably appreciate this story, and hey, you even got a cool sketch! I try to remember that authors do a lot of these things, see many fans/readers/critics/oblivious strangers at book signings, and so I cannot possibly be the most annoying ;)

  • http://writesthoughts.blogspot.com Stormi

    Great story.

  • http://www.sueysbooks.blogspot.com Suey

    Great story! I posted awhile back on all the funny things I end up saying to authors and their signings. And there’s been quite a few! Yeah, they can be quite nerve wracking, if while at the same time very exciting….

  • http://www.brimfulcuriosities.com Janelle

    My preschool daughter likes to attend author events, but when she has the chance to meet an author she becomes super shy and refuses to talk. First time meetings are almost always awkward and difficult, even when it is just a “regular, not superstar status” person you are meeting. At least that’s what I try to tell myself each time I make a fool of myself at a book signing.

  • http://www.yabookshelf.com Melissa

    Mary, I know what you mean. I try to find a good story out of everything, and this one worked out perfectly. :) Thanks for your comment!

  • http://www.yabookshelf.com Melissa

    Thanks for your comment Jan! Your story about Margaret Atwood reminds me of something that happened to my sister in December. She’d been teaching English in South Korea, and was just coming back after finishing her contract. While in the Vancouver airport, she saw Margaret Atwood in the bathroom, I think brushing her teeth or something. My sister loves Atwood too (as do I), and all that she could say was, “You’re Margaret Atwood!” I’ll keep your “I cannot possibly be the most annoying” sentiment in mind the next time I go to a signing. :)

    I agree, I think Sedaris would actually appreciate it since, if you’ve read any of his personal essays, you’d know that many of the premises surround incidents where he does something that doesn’t turn out as planned. If I can track him down, I’m definitely sending him a link to this post. :)

  • http://www.yabookshelf.com Melissa

    Hi Suey – Cool, I’d love to check out the post that you mentioned. I’ll check out your blog later today when I have some time. :)

  • http://www.yabookshelf.com Melissa

    Thanks for your comment Jannelle! A lot of these comments mention other people making fools of themselves at book signings. It makes a self-professed book signing fool feel a little less of an outcast in all this. :)

  • http://www.bookshopsantacruz.com Nici

    I was devastated when my collection of signed Stewart O’Nan books were water damaged. As someone who works at a bookstore and who sometimes helps out with author events, I always stress out over small talk with authors. I always want to be witty, personable, intelligent, and–most of all–knowledgeable about their books. And that isn’t always possible for me. Especially the witty part.

    So, how’s the weather? Been on tour long? Been to Santa Cruz before? Oh, the agony.

    But I think the authors are pretty used to it.
    -Nici

  • http://www.yabookshelf.com Melissa

    Yes, as I mentioned in the post, signed books are the “holy grail” of book geeks, so I can imagine how devastating getting them water damaged would be. Thanks for your comment Nici! Yeah, I think that you’re right about the authors must get used to it. They’re people too after all, and I’m sure that they don’t always know what to say either (whether it’s because they have some other literary heroes or that it’s just a common fact of life when you meet someone you don’t really know). Wonders if it’s even more awkward for authors sometimes when readers are the exact opposite – when they seem to know everything about them, but the author doesn’t really have any idea who they are. :)

  • http://emilysreadingroom.blogspot.com Emily E

    Ugh, I don’t even want to say some of the stupid things that I’ve said in author’s presence before. I don’t get nearly as nervous now, but I still have a hard time coming up with good things to say.

    Thanks so much for joining us for Armchair BEA this year!

  • http://www.yabookshelf.com Melissa

    Thanks for your comment Emily! Hehehe…when you write that you don’t even want to say what you’ve said to an author before, it really gets my imagination zooming around to all the different possibilities of what you might have said. Perhaps that is even more entertaining that actually knowing your comments. :)

    I’m really excited about being part of Armchair BEA!

  • http://web.me.com/bluestocking_bb Bluestocking

    That is really funny!

    Here is my Armchair BEA post

  • http://anovelsource.blogspot.com Stacy (A Novel Source)

    Oh the agony! The despair! The humiliation! I volunteered at our literary festival in my beautiful small town that drags in a little over 20,000+ people and one of my faves….Steve Berry. And what do I do? Trip in front of him and say absolutely NOTHING! And I’m not a normally tongue-tied person! Nor am I a person who normally gets gun-shy around celebrities but oh my goodness gracious it was like something off of Laurel & Hardy. He helped me up, I mumbled an apology and I rushed out totally embarrassed! I’m sure he does not remember but I am still mortified!

  • http://booksonarainyday.blogspot.com/ Aths

    That was really hilarious! :) And I mean that in a good way. Believe me, I will be shivering in my pants if I were meeting my most favorite author. And like you, I will be creating conversation in my mind all along. LOL! So that is nothing bad or humiliating. :) Thanks for sharing your experience, and making me laugh. Really appreciate your honesty!

  • http://unfinishedperson.com unfinishedperson

    Ugh.

    Thanks for reminding me that I have this book on my shelf (won from another book blogger) and I haven’t read it yet. Talk about being chagrined.

    I am now.

    As for meeting Sedaris, I am soooooo jealous, but I wouldn’t have known what to say either since I hadn’t read the book. :(

  • http://thebumblesblog.blogspot.com/ Bumbles

    At least you weren’t so nervous you forgot your name – I could picture myself standing there with a blank stare, unable to speak, grunting out whatever name popped into my head first and bringing home a cherished autographed book made out to the wrong name ;0)

    Thanks for sharing your story – gave me a good chuckle.

  • http://athomewithbooks.blogspot.com Alyce

    That is so funny! I could completely see myself doing something similar. In fact I have been known to give the wrong answers to simple questions when I’m really flustered. Once one of my friend’s parents asked me if I had braces (on my teeth), and my mind panicked for some reason and thought she was asking if I had braces the last time I’d seen her. So I said no. Then my husband looked at me like I was crazy. That look like, “Why are you lying to her in church.” Yeah, we were in church at the time. Oops. Then I had to explain, yes I had braces when I was younger, but had misunderstood the question. She looked at me like I was a loon.

  • http://www.pussreboots.pair.com/blog/2010/comments_05/armchair_bea_what_to_blog_about.html Pussreboots

    I’ve never gone to a book signing. I know I’d feel out of place at one.

  • http://www.yabookshelf.com Melissa

    Thanks Stormi! Glad you liked it. :)

  • http://www.yabookshelf.com Melissa

    Wow! There have been so many great comments that I couldn’t keep up with them all – that’s what happens when you have to spend your day at the day job, rather than working on your blog. :)

    Bluestocking – thanks for your comment and for leaving a link to your post about the iPad!

    Stacy – Thanks for sharing your humiliation with me and the rest of my readers. I could definitely picture myself doing exactly the same thing (the tripping) as it happens far more often than I’d like to admit. I think you’re right that Steve Berry doesn’t remember the incident, and I’d venture to guess that, in time, you may stop being so mortified. Kind of like me and my David Sedaris story. :)

    Aths – Thanks for your comment and positive feedback. I’m glad that I could make you laugh! Reading isn’t always a comedic experience, but if something I write can be funny to others, then I’m all for that. :)

    Unfinished Person – Thanks for your comment, I think… Didn’t want to remind you of bad things, but what I can say is that when you finally have the chance to read the book, you will be laughing to yourself a lot. If you’re like me, then you’ll even want to share the laughter with a friend or two. :)

    Hehehe…Bumbles, you gave me a good chuckle too. The image you paint would be hysterical indeed if it actually ever happened to anyone. Hmmm…maybe that’s why they came up with the concept of having an employee write the name on a post-it before you actually met the author – too many people came home with books made out to other people.
    ; )

    Thanks for your comment Alyce! David Sedaris didn’t look at me as if I were a loon, but he did draw a turtle. *Wonders does David just like turtles or was that just another, nice way to say he thinks I’m…slow. :)

    Pussreboots – thanks for the comment. You might feel a little out of place / out of your element, but it definitely is exciting to meet a favorite author. If you ever go to one, I think you’ll see what I mean. :)

  • http://janflora.wordpress.com janflora

    That’s hilarious! I would pass out if I saw Margaret Atwood in a restroom. Funny! But what a great “brush with fame” story :)

  • http://www.yabookshelf.com Melissa

    Hahaha! Thanks for adding that little something extra to my sister’s unexpected meeting with Margaret Atwood Jan!

  • http://www.tiftalksbooks.com Tif

    ROFL!! Sad thing is . . . this sounds exactly like me!! I think and think about something witty to say when I go to signings (and I’ve actually been to quite a few, so I’ve had some practice), but I always end up sounding stupid or am just silent! Maybe someday I will pull off something witty . . . :)

  • http://www.yabookshelf.com Melissa

    Thanks so much for your comment Tif! One things for certain, after your comment and a number of the other ones that have came in today about this post, I realize I’m not a complete dork. Then again, I wonder if we aren’t being harsher critics of ourselves than the authors would actually be of us. Hmm…nice thought. ;)

  • http://lifeisapatchworkquilt.com/blog Valerie

    Maybe David Sedaris makes it an habit to draw animals when he does book signings? I wonder. At least it’s something cute that he drew :-) !

  • http://www.yabookshelf.com Melissa

    Thanks for your comment Valerie! I’m not sure if he always draws animals, but I do recollect him saying something about drawing a few different things in people’s books on that particular day: turtles of course, but I can’t remember the other things. (Too long ago.) :) It definitely is a cute addition to the norm book signing.

  • http://www.whoRuBlog.com Liza Wiemer

    Thanks for sharing this! Being at the BEA as an author was one of the best experiences I’ve ever had. Looking forward to more of your posts!

  • http://www.yabookshelf.com Melissa

    Thanks for your comment and positive feedback Liza! I’m sure that a lot of my readers are dreaming of the day that they can say what you just said – about BEA of course. :)

  • http://thebookbluff.blogspot.com Kika

    LoL aww Melissa this is too funny. well, I’m sure NOW it is hehe Thanks for sharing! :D

  • http://www.yabookshelf.com Melissa

    Thanks for your comment Kika! Glad that you liked it. :)

  • Cam

    This is incredibly funny to me, mostly because the same thing happened to me, at the very same event. :) I LOVE David Sedaris, so I went to that signing at Indigo, and thoroughly embarrassed myself when I went up to him without knowing what to say. I was sooo awkward, and he kept trying to strike up conversation by asking things like, “So what are you doing after this? Are you going to see a movie?” At least you got a cool drawing with your autograph!

  • http://www.yabookshelf.com Melissa

    Thanks so much for your comment Cam! Doesn’t it make you happy to know that you weren’t the only one who thoroughly humiliated yourself at this particular event? :) Yeah, had my parents actually gotten to know me before they named me, awkward might have been my middle name. I hope that the next time David strolls into town I’ll have something a little more substantial to say…in fact, after writing this article, I’m pretty sure that I will. ;) Yes, I treasure the drawing and the fact that I can actually laugh about this experience. Glad you could too!

  • http://kaitlyninbookland.blogspot.com/ Kaitlyn in Bookland

    hahah I love this story! Thank you so much for sharing. :)

  • http://www.yabookshelf.com/ Melissa Montovani

    Thanks! Glad that my humiliations can be fodder for blogging enjoyment. :)

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